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A recommendation is the term we use when we send you details of a client who we believe to be suitable for you. 

This will via email and we include their name, age and bio. 

You can decline a recommendation however this will count towards your offered recommendations amount – as stated on your chosen membership. 

An introduction is when we share your email address with a match and we share your matches email address with you. 

At this point its up to either of you to reach you and make a date. 

Once both parties have agreed that the recommended person is suitable we deem this as a match. 

This will depend on your membership as a membership term can either be monthly or 3 monthly.

For example if you sign up for our 3 month Premium membership you can expect up to 6 recommendations per membership term. 

Further to the example above – in the case of our Premium monthly membership you can expect up to 2 matches per month. 

For our Deluxe tier there is no restriction on the amount of recommendations you can expect.

Whilst we will strive to find you a suitable recommendation there may be times when your preferences simply don’t match the clients on our database.

If that’s the case and we cannot find you a recommendation for more than than 6 weeks then we’ll contact you to let you know this and discuss what options we can offer. 

These may include broadening your search parameters or offering you a wildcard recommendation.

A wildcard recommendation is a recommendation that may be somewhat different to the preferences you have shared with us.

You’re under no obligation to attend or agree to a date with anybody that we recommend to you. It’s completely your choice and optional.

It should be noted however that we will include that date offer as a recommendation against your subscription. 

This will depend on your subscription tier.

For our Deluxe membership you will be able to defer for 3 months and resume the remainder of your membership after that period, or at any time prior to 3 months if you wish to do so.

For our Premium membership your plan will still run until completion and we’ll continue to offer you recommendations unless requested not to do so. 

Recommendations and matches are sent via email 

We will share your name, age and an extract from the ‘About me’ section of your profile.

At times we may share more information such as any declared disabilities or any special considerations.

Where we may offer your profile as a a wildcard date we may share any information shared to us via your profile form except for your address and telephone number. 

We will ask all our members to provide us with a clear profile picture, taken in the last 12 months.

This can either be one of your choosing, or we can take this during your consultation.

The photograph is purely for identification purposes and won’t be shared with anyone outside of Ratemydateni.

Yes however we do not offer refunds on this service.

You can cancel your subscription to disable your auto renewal and your subscription will still run until the end of your subscription term. 

If you wish to cancel and no longer receive recommendations then please contact us. 

Additionally – Deluxe members can pause their membership for a period of up to 3 months.

We don’t arrange dates. Ratemydateni only provides an email address as a means of introduction.

It is entirely up to you whether you follow through with a date.

We ask all members to show or provide photographic identification and this is mandatory before they can become a member of our matchmaking service. 

We do not run any sort of background checks on our clients however we do ask for a declaration of any unspent criminal offences. 

We do not accept applicants with unspent criminal records.

We also ensure that we conduct a consultation with all applicants to ensure profile integrity.

After a week has past since we have made an introduction on your behalf we will send each of you a dating feedback form. 

No personal questions are asked but we do ask how it went and what you think was right or wrong. 

We’ll use this feedback to fine tune your preferences. 

We ask for your preferred day and time when you sign up, we’ll aim for these times but they may not be facilitated immediately.

We will contact you via e-mail to confirm a time slot

Yes – however you must let us know prior to 6 hours before your consultation is due to begin. Failure to do this will result in you losing your consultation fee.

If you have informed us before then we will endeavour to rearrange for a suitable date and time. 


Speed dating is a matchmaking process which has the purpose of encouraging eligible singles to meet large numbers of new potential partners in a very short period of time.

When you arrive we’ll greet you at the door, confirm your booking and provide you with a ratemydateni pack. We’ll provide you with your seat number so that you can be seated when the dates start (around 8pm).

The females will remain in their allocated seat whilst the men will move one seat forward after each date until all dates have been completed.

When the event begins you get 4 minutes to chat before we ring the bell. We then give you a 30 second grace period to complete your match card and for the men to move seats. We will have some breaks throughout the dating for refreshments etc.  

After all the dates have been completed please return your pack to us and we then  encourage you to stay and mingle and enjoy the entertainment provided.

On the night you will be provided with a match card, included in your ratemydateni pack. If you feel there is a connection you tick ‘yes’ in the ‘Would you like a second date?’ column.

If they also tick yes for you it’s a match. We will email you with all your matches the following day.  

It’s then up to you to decide if you want to make the first move or not.

Your email address is only ever shared with your matches.

Most people who attend are people who would just like to meet more people and have gotten bored of the modern day way of dating (via mobile apps etc). They’re generally people who just aren’t meeting people through their work or immediate circle of friends.

It depends on the event. All of our events are arranged into specific age groups. Check our events page for all of our events and their age bands.

Whilst the age range is more of a guideline we ask that participants are usually within a year of the age range (either side). We may ask for ID before entry to ensure that the participants are within the perceived age range as we have found this leads to more matches and a better overall experience for everyone. 

This is usually dependant upon the venue. On average, we have around 15 men and 15 women at each event, though this may vary depending on individual circumstances (e.g. late cancellations etc).

Yes, 4 minutes can be a long time with someone you do not ‘connect’ with. However, it is long enough to know whether you would like to invest a few hours getting to know each other on a further date.

Smart casual is best, something you feel comfortable and confident in – think what you would wear to go on a mid-week date. Although there is no official dress code at our events.

Yes, the events take place in rooms which have been specifically hired for the event.

Yes, most speed daters do come alone. Once you have registered you can have a drink at the bar and mix with other participants but feel free to come with friends too.

It’s natural to be nervous when meeting new people, especially when there’s the prospect of romance. However rest assured that if you don’t connect with one of the dates its much easier to spend 4 minutes with dates you don’t connect with than a whole evening.

A premium ticket entitles you to the following benefits:

-A Free drink – Redeem your free drinks token and have a drink on us!

Familiar faces? Find out how many people you have met before at previous events!

Ticket protection: Option to defer your ticket to a future event!

Second chance date – Find out everyone who said yes to you and amend your choices to secure a match!

Terms and conditions apply

During 2019 I attended some local speed dating events and really liked the concept. The events were good fun and it completely changed my opinion on speed dating. There were a few things that I felt were missing on the night though and I thought that I could do better.

I had the idea for this business a few months before Covid19 .. and like everything else the pandemic stopped any progress.

My main aim is to provide an evening where everyone feels comfortable, has a good time on the night and finds what they are looking for. 

I’ll be in attendance at every event so feel free to stick around and chat after.